By: Donna K
The correct response for someone who dislikes parties is DO NOT HOST A PARTY FOR THEM. “But they earned a celebration” “they probably just don’t like a certain kind of party” “but they deserve something special” IS MAKING IT ABOUT YOURSELF.
Some people just do not like parties. It does not mean they have social anxiety, hate people or any of that. For some it’s as simple as having to interact with other people all day at work and not wanting to do it in their free time. Even if you plan the party the guest of honor must mingle, make small talk or engage in activities like party games. Your friend may cherosh a day when they don’t have to do this. Extroverts feed off contact with others; introverts are drained by it, even if the gathering is small.
If you want a party that badly, be honest and admit it and host the party for anybody but your friend.
By: Renee
Sometimes it's not about it being a "bad party", but they could just be introverted, have social anxiety, or it just isn't really something they enjoy. If you know they don't like having a party thrown for them, DON'T. Evaluate if you're doing it for yourself or if you're actually doing it for them. There's different ways to value and celebrate someone's life. Do so by doing what they actually love to do or will actually appreciate.
-From someone that genuinely doesn't like parties thrown for themselves and is getting a surprise birthday party later tonight